3 times in my life people have told me that I'm arrogant. 2 of those people have returned to me, apologized and said that now they've gotten to know me don't think that at all. While I'm still waiting for the 3rd ... I can either use their apology to dismiss what they once saw in me or I can realize that they saw something that I need to look at.
It's not hard to see that the times that they saw my arrogance were times when I felt insecure. My response to feeling insecure was to puff myself up and push others back so that they wouldn't discover what I knew, somewhere deep in me...
In those times it was more important to me that I appeared strong, than it was to become stronger. In those times I missed my opportunity to actually grow into the man was yet to become.
I'm left with a question I must ask myself every day, "Is it more important to appear strong or to become stronger?"
Everyday I chose to either be a fool or a wise man- When I get feedback and choose to explain why it isn't accurate, I am a fool that misses an opportunity. When I choose to find whatever small bit is accurate in what I'm being told, it is inevitable that I will become a wiser, a better man. The deliverer of the message may be 90% wrong, but they just helped me become 10% better.
Thank you, to all those who were 10% right. You helped me to become the man I am.
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